1- Taking ownership for the consequences of our own actions. Developing a sense of cause and effect and of how our behavior affects us, others, and our environment.
2- Understanding limits and expectations. Learning some guiding principles of behavior and knowing there are some things that each of us is expected to do, whether we want to or not.
3- Learning to manage one's own powerful emotions. Learning that although all feelings are ok, we must think before acting.
4- Figuring out time, space, and transitions and being able to move in a predictable way through the day. Learning how to wait, how to share space, and how to deal with changes.
Adapted from Beyond Behavior Management by Jenna Bilmes
I think this is a really helpful way to break down self-regulation. I always forget that these skills don't come naturally and I actually have to walk my kids through them. They might not just know that their actions have consequences...yelling won't actually teach that (though it's a constant struggle to remind myself of that).
ReplyDeleteAnd self-regulation so important to learn early because kids need the skills as they get older as well, especially in school.